Do's and Dont's for Your Gay Wedding's Guest List
Planning a gay wedding can be a surprising amount of work. Whether there are two grooms or two brides, the truth is that there will be two families coming together on this special day. It takes a lot of effort to bring the event off without a hitch, so here are a few do’s and don’ts to help you plan your special day:
- Plan the wedding on a budget — Neither of you has endless amounts of money to spend on your wedding, no matter how lavish you want it to be. You’re going to need to set a budget and stick to that budget when planning the wedding. If you can find an event planner that will offer you a packaged deal on all of the wedding services, it’s the smart way to go! Once you know how much you can spend, invite only as many guests as your budget allows.
- Invite the guests that belong –– Just because it’s your wedding, that doesn’t mean you have to invite Jerry from accounting or Sue from the grocery store. Only invite the guests that you really want to see at the wedding and don’t invite those that you feel obligated to bring along. If you want to keep the wedding party small, don’t even add the “+1” to the invitation. No plus ones = fewer random people at your wedding.
- Decide who is and isn’t coming — Are your guests allowed to bring their children? Should your spouse invite their ex – even though they’re on friendly terms? Are you bringing a few of your closest co-workers? Make sure to sit your partner down and hash all these details out before drawing up the guest list.
- Be pushed around by your family — You just know that your family is going to push you to invite a few more guests to the wedding – guests that they want to bring along, but which you don’t really want. Even if you family is helping to cover the wedding costs, it’s your special day. That doesn’t mean you can be a bride or groom-zilla, but it does mean that you do have extra clout when putting your foot down and saying, “No, I don’t want him or her to come.”
- Invite those that just don’t support you — You may be getting married to your domestic partner, but perhaps not all of your family and friends are in agreement. It may not be wise to invite those that don’t support your lifestyle and sexuality, so consider that carefully when drawing up the guest list.
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