You’ve already chosen the wedding venue, hired the caterer, designed the cake, and picked out the dress–all the easy stuff! Now comes the hardest part of the wedding: writing your own wedding vows.
For many people, wedding vows are all but impossible to write. Not only do you have to write something meaningful, but you no doubt want to make your vows stand out from those spoken at the many weddings you’ve attended. Writing your own vows may seem an insurmountable challenge, but the truth is that it’s easier than you think!
How to Write Wedding Vows
It doesn’t have to be impossible to write your own wedding vows, especially if you remember to add the following three things:
- A personal touch — What’s something in your life that has changed or gotten better since you met your spouse? What changes have you made in your own life thanks to him or her? How are you a better, happier person because of the things they have done? Add that personal touch to start off your vows, and you’re already well begun!
- A declaration of love — You love the man or woman standing in front of you, right? Well, use your vows to tell them just how much you love them, as well as why. You don’t have to be the next Elizabeth Barrett Browning (“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways…”), but you can just simply tell the man or woman of your dreams the things that you love about them.
- A promise — You don’t HAVE to promise to honour, obey, and respect them, but you can promise whatever you want. Promise you’ll love them, listen to them, or enjoy every minute of your lives together. Make a promise that shows them how much you love them, but make them promises that you can actually keep!
How long should your wedding vows be? The average person’s attention span for wedding vows will last for about a minute or two. Any longer, and you’ll start losing the crowd. Try to keep the wedding vows to a couple of minutes, as there is a lot of ceremony to get through. Less is more, so trim down those vows to only the important stuff.
Remember, when writing your vows, be yourself! That’s the most important thing to help you write good vows. Your vows should sound like you, have your own words and unique flair, and be from YOUR heart. Don’t crack open a book and steal the words from there, but express what’s in your heart your own way. That’s what makes wedding vows special on your big day!
Writing your wedding vows is a challenge only you can deal with, but for everything else, there’s Red Scooter! Our team of wedding planning professionals will handle every other aspect of your wedding planning, freeing you up to focus on writing those important words to tell your future husband or wife just how much you love them!